Kaoru Oguro, LCSW

Does it sound like you?

You’ve built a successful career, cultivated great friendships, and checked every box of "success", but you still feel like you aren’t enough, especially in a romantic relationship. Despite your accomplishments, you constantly criticize yourself and try to improve yourself to fix yourself, but it’s been really exhausting and it’s not working. 

You argue with your partner often and you feel misunderstood, not supported, and disconnected with your partner. Now you’re not sure if this is the life you want or you’re with the right person to spend your future with. 

What is the root cause of this feeling?

You wonder if childhood has some impacts on your romantic relationships struggles. When you were young, your anxiety or emotional needs were never fully validated or supported by your parents, and now you struggles to validate and prioritize your own needs in a relationship. No matter how much you achieve, you notice that an underlying sense of anxiety and remains in you. You feel guilty to keep boundaries with your parents and it’s hard for you to prioritize your feelings and needs.

You want to heal the root of your past pain and change your emotional pattern

The past therapy gave you insights into your pain, but it didn’t really change how you actually feel on a deeper level. This time you want to try a different type of therapy that goes deeper on your emotions and root of your persistent patterns so that you can truly heal from your past pain and change your emotional and relational patterns in a relationship.

Hi, I’m Kaoru-Complex Trauma and Anxiety Therapist in New York, NY

I help high-achievers to move past deep-seated insecurity and C-PTSD so they can cultivate truly fulfilling relationships and live a life truly authentic to their own needs and desires.

Many of my clients' insecurity and self-criticism stem from their difficult childhoods with complex trauma, and my work is guided by a trauma-informed approach in a gentle, kind, relational manner. Over their time in therapy, many of my clients experience a significant growth in identifying their own triggers for insecurity and unhelpful reaction patterns and start coping with anxiety and trauma reactions in healthier ways. It also gets easier for them to validate, prioritize, and communicate their own feelings and needs to set boundaries with other people without worrying about other people’s judgements and expectations. 

Ready to take the next step?

You don’t have to carry this pain alone any more. If you’re ready to overcome your insecurity and fully enjoy your true-self and a life or relationship that you truly want, I welcome you to reach out for a free 15-minute video consultation. Let’s discuss how trauma-informed therapy can help you reclaim your true-self and confidence, and heal your relationships with yourself and others you love.